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Hello guys, hope you are good. I need your opinion about a situation with a buyer. So i am a singer, songwriter and writer and i have gigs for all of this. I often write erotic stuff but this is because i don’t like to limit my art inspiration, so if i feel like i want to write something erotic i do, all for art. So this buyer came to my writer gig, and asked for a erotic poem, he wanted this quick, like in 24 hours, ok it’s all good. He told me he want something about female orgasm, so I did one poem that was more ambiguous i can say, he told me he want to change and sent me a pdf(every time he asks for a change he send me a pdf, he just don’t write this stuff on chat), so in this pdf he asked me to use some specific erotic words, and even asked if I don’t want to talk on WhatsApp, which i denied of course!! ok i did other poem that was more erotic, like really erotic, he sent me other change request, I changed, then he told me he wants a audio, i said this is not included he said he will pay extra because he needs this cause he was invited to a reunion with womans that have shops, something like this so i though ok is something professional, so i can record, so i did the record, like with a professional calm voice as he asked, then he asked another revision and said he will send me another pdf with some changes, guys he took like one week(remember he told me he wanted this in 24 hours??), always saying “dear i want to keep working with you” “I will give you 5 stars and a good review”, at this point I don’t care about reviews but i already delivered the poem and the audio so i don’t want to cancel. Today he sent me the pdf and there was some pictures of like some erotic stuff, something about a prostitute and he is asking me to record this with a “orgasm voice” something like I am moaning! I’m perplexed guys because i don’t write those things like i am feeling those things, I am working and I feel so disrespected, like he thinks because he is paying and will “give me 5 stars” i have to send him audio of me moaning! How you would deal with this?! Do you think i am tripping or he is really trying something? Sorry for my bad English, I am nervous.

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Sounds like a creep to me.

He’s sending pdfs to not trigger the Fiverr message system.

I’d stop working for him and report him.

But that’s me.

He’s sending pdfs to not trigger the Fiverr message system.

That is the first thing I thought. He wants to hide his actions and knows how to do it.

I would report him too.

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  • Illegal or Fraudulent services
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    Adult oriented services, Pornographic, Inappropriate/Obscene

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Sounds like a creep to me.

He’s sending pdfs to not trigger the Fiverr message system.

I’d stop working for him and report him.

But that’s me.

Thank you, this is what i will do. I was thinking if it wasn’t me exaggerating on my head because as a woman we always have to stay in this defense side. Thanks

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He’s sending pdfs to not trigger the Fiverr message system.

That is the first thing I thought. He wants to hide his actions and knows how to do it.

I would report him too.

From TOS

Gigs and/or users may be removed by Fiverr from the Site for violations of these Terms of Service and/or our Community Standards, which may include (but are not limited to) the following violations and/or materials:

  • Illegal or Fraudulent services
  • Copyright Infringement, Trademark Infringement, and violation of a third party’s terms of service reported through our Intellectual Property Claims Policy found here

    Adult oriented services, Pornographic, Inappropriate/Obscene

Thank you, i will contact them now

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This will be a good time to maybe edit your gig description to make clear what you will and will not do. If recordings aren’t in any of your gig packages, stick to your guns and say no. Let them hire someone else to do the recording.

What’s next, a video?

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Sounds like a creep to me.

He’s sending pdfs to not trigger the Fiverr message system.

I’d stop working for him and report him.

But that’s me.

Sounds like a creep to me.

Exactly what I wanted to say. That’s not a buyer, just a creep. 🙂

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This will be a good time to maybe edit your gig description to make clear what you will and will not do. If recordings aren’t in any of your gig packages, stick to your guns and say no. Let them hire someone else to do the recording.

What’s next, a video?

This is true, for sure i need to check my description and be more clear about what i sell. Thank you

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Stupid people like you are a big rubbish in this world. I can upload any photo I want and none of this gives anyone the right to consider that I am selling myself! I advise you to educate yourself instead of saying a lot of nonsense things, acting like you don’t have a brain.

In addition to what others have said, it’s useful to keep in mind that Fiverr attracts certain cheapskate types, because it appears to be cheaper than, err, specialized sites (if you know what I mean), and those types don’t care about the fact that the services they really want are forbidden on Fiverr.

So… Be careful, I guess. If something seems creepy, it most likely is, and you should run in the opposite direction.

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Whenever someone orders something that’s either against Fiverr’s ToS or that your gigs clearly don’t offer, or even both at once, which obviously is often the case, submit a ticket to support and ask them to cancel for you. They can do that without it affecting your order completion rate.

They have criteria for that, of course, but I have good experience when people ordered things against ToS, something that’s out of the scope of my Gig, or “by accident”.

If they didn’t order directly via Gig but asked for a custom offer, I guess it depends on what the agreement was, but still, if they first accept the custom offer and then ask for something else than was agreed, and it’s either against ToS, or you don’t want to do it, ask support to cancel.

Apart from your rate being spared, it has the additional benefit of support checking the conversation and perhaps the buyer’s account, and can act appropriately, and perhaps they’ll get monitored, a warning, or banned, depending, and can’t bother other sellers too.

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In addition to what others have said, it’s useful to keep in mind that Fiverr attracts certain cheapskate types, because it appears to be cheaper than, err, specialized sites (if you know what I mean), and those types don’t care about the fact that the services they really want are forbidden on Fiverr.

So… Be careful, I guess. If something seems creepy, it most likely is, and you should run in the opposite direction.

Thanks. I can see that at certain point i was really ingenious about this. I saw other people creating this type of gig that writes this romance erotic stuff and i for real though it was ok, no one would disrespect, is something easy to understand but well I’m seeing now that it’s not like that, i will for sure edit this gig as well

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Whenever someone orders something that’s either against Fiverr’s ToS or that your gigs clearly don’t offer, or even both at once, which obviously is often the case, submit a ticket to support and ask them to cancel for you. They can do that without it affecting your order completion rate.

They have criteria for that, of course, but I have good experience when people ordered things against ToS, something that’s out of the scope of my Gig, or “by accident”.

If they didn’t order directly via Gig but asked for a custom offer, I guess it depends on what the agreement was, but still, if they first accept the custom offer and then ask for something else than was agreed, and it’s either against ToS, or you don’t want to do it, ask support to cancel.

Apart from your rate being spared, it has the additional benefit of support checking the conversation and perhaps the buyer’s account, and can act appropriately, and perhaps they’ll get monitored, a warning, or banned, depending, and can’t bother other sellers too.

Thanks, he first ordered from my basic package where i am offering to write 1000 words i think, like a short story or poems, then he asked for the audio and i sent him like a extra, where i clearly say that i will record professionally the poem that he already approved. So i can show ToS this. He used more revisions than what he should. I hope they understand me, we know unfortunately the site sometimes don’t listen to sellers and prefer the buyers

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Thanks. I can see that at certain point i was really ingenious about this. I saw other people creating this type of gig that writes this romance erotic stuff and i for real though it was ok, no one would disrespect, is something easy to understand but well I’m seeing now that it’s not like that, i will for sure edit this gig as well

I’m sure that there are perfectly respectful buyers looking for romance/erotica; unfortunately, not all of them are like that.

By the way, creeps may come your way even if you don’t offer anything related to erotica. There’s a user who is selling her services as a psychic, and she kept getting requests to send pictures of her feet (and no, she has never offered foot model services).

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I’m sure that there are perfectly respectful buyers looking for romance/erotica; unfortunately, not all of them are like that.

By the way, creeps may come your way even if you don’t offer anything related to erotica. There’s a user who is selling her services as a psychic, and she kept getting requests to send pictures of her feet (and no, she has never offered foot model services).

Omg this is so horrible, people really bothering her while she’s just there working! Is 2021 and i really don’t understand how we’re still dealing with this. I’m glad you guys understood this, gives some hope.

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Thanks, he first ordered from my basic package where i am offering to write 1000 words i think, like a short story or poems, then he asked for the audio and i sent him like a extra, where i clearly say that i will record professionally the poem that he already approved. So i can show ToS this. He used more revisions than what he should. I hope they understand me, we know unfortunately the site sometimes don’t listen to sellers and prefer the buyers

As long as you present your case calmly and succinctly and attach proof (screenshots), and their guidelines allow for it, you have a good chance, it’s worth a shot in any case.

It’s possible that they don’t understand correctly right away, or maybe skim your message too quickly. Even then, I have a good track record with writing back to clarify. Again, worth a try, depending on the issue. If it’s something that doesn’t bother me much and wouldn’t potentially help other sellers, I might not bother, but else, I’m fine with trying a second time.

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