The word "dear" is used too much

[qbo_xero_pro]

There is tooo much dearness

[arnukas]

I was also contacted once by “Hi Dear sir brother, please help me bro with this work.” Just look at the sentence. That’s way too much for me.

[maitasun]

There is tooo much dearness

There is tooo much dearness

That’s because we all are too lovable, I guess. 😅

I was also contacted once by “Hi Dear sir brother, please help me bro with this work.” Just look at the sentence. That’s way too much for me.

For anybody. 😅

[nikavoice]

Does Reindeer count?! :thinking:
Oh, reindeer, I’m confused now. 🥴

[tiakovolana]

(don’t know how to get it to start at a curtain timestamp automatically <.< i am reminded of this though)

[alyonagrapie]

I’ve been called “brother” multiple times on fiverr. Not even “dude” or “bro”. Literally “brother”. Some people’s copy/paste skills and the level of care are just embarrassing.

The brother/bro thing is probably much more cultural, than “dear”. I speak hindi and urdu (not fluently, but I understand it well) and whenever native speakers are not calling people mam or sir, they are calling them brother/sister/uncle/son, etc., depending on their age difference.

Refusing to call people by “family name” is sometimes even frowned upon as a sign of social distancing and arrogance. As your fellow slav, I of course find that weird, especially in professional setting. But then I remind myself that as a slav I have cultural imprint on the way I speak aswell. Slavs tend to seem more rude, than they intend to be, especially when their english is far from fluent. So I try to not get annoyed at people not being that great in expressing themselves in their second language.

[tiakovolana]

we are the knights that say DEER!

[Guest designer228]

I guess so. All of the buyers who called me “dear” were from Pakistan.

No we didn’t say dear. Pakistani Sellers also give respect to them and say sir same like described by @surajrenuka Like Indians.

[ardesignes]

Dear sir,

Why you feel uncomfortable with this :thinking:

[blavaro]

Every Seller may consider to ask Buyer first if they can call them bro, sir, ma´am etc. Different cultures are sensitive to different wording.

It might show respect to Buyer and communication would be much more pleasant imo.

[lenasemenkova]

The brother/bro thing is probably much more cultural, than “dear”. I speak hindi and urdu (not fluently, but I understand it well) and whenever native speakers are not calling people mam or sir, they are calling them brother/sister/uncle/son, etc., depending on their age difference.

Refusing to call people by “family name” is sometimes even frowned upon as a sign of social distancing and arrogance. As your fellow slav, I of course find that weird, especially in professional setting. But then I remind myself that as a slav I have cultural imprint on the way I speak aswell. Slavs tend to seem more rude, than they intend to be, especially when their english is far from fluent. So I try to not get annoyed at people not being that great in expressing themselves in their second language.

I understand where it comes from. What I don’t understand is the unwillingness of letting it go on the international platform. Because when I see “brother” (or “sir”, or “sir/mam”) in my inbox, I don’t “read” it as person trying to show me respect. I read it as someone spamming the same message to 100 people without looking at who the recipients even are.

And into the spam they go. Which would be the opposite result of what they were trying to achieve, I think.

[Guest sarkar20202]

I don`t use this word “dear”

[rahulkajla1]

Never had a serous inquiry that started with “dear” or “bro”. Always asking for work, tips to “mek-sells”, name of the software I use or for discounted prices and constant haggling with no intentions to buy. One guy even asked me for some money.

[heyfellow1]

Dear sir,

Why you feel uncomfortable with this :thinking:

Its like someone is looking down on me and I just know what you did there. But that’s a good use of dear… not like “yes dear” or “no dear”

[oskars25]

If somebody sends me Dear , i send them back reindeer photo 😃

[filomena_silva]

The word Dear in my country is usually used among people who have some intimacy, such as longtime friends or family. So, I’m also one of the persons who doesn’t like to be called Dear. I have even talked to some customers about this, explaining the cultural reason and asking them to not call me that. Unfortunately, when I ask them not to call me Dear the reaction is not the best. People argue with me or ignore and keep calling me Dear. It’s so annoying. I don’t like to be called Sir, Sis, Bro or Brother as well.